Arghhhhhhhh!!!!!! I’m a Jill of all trades and master of none. It’s so frustrating because my whole life, I was the girl that was good at almost everything. I could dance, sing, play pretty much every sport and do it well, party hard but still maintain good marks, I was nerdy but still fashionable and popular and it seemed like my whole life would be a shinning beacon back in my high school and university days.
You know what my problem is? When I have too many options I just fall short and don’t know what the heck to do with myself. I get all worked up and confused about who I am and my deepest desires. I start comparing myself to everyone else who seems to know exactly what they want and how far they are going. I even start mimicking them and trying out the things they are just to see if I am good at it. More often than not, I find that I am in fact good at it but don’t follow through with the full actions because I realize that isn’t who I am. After trying to copy others and failing at finding myself, I get into a frump and throw myself a pity party and sulk for a few days, maybe even weeks. It’s scary to feel lost especially when you’re relatively talented, smart, and driven.
Have you ever felt this way before? Where, some may say, you are so blessed to be good at so many things, all to feel like those good things are actually the worst qualities about you? Or have you ever felt like you don’t know enough compared to others? Or maybe, what you know isn’t good or important enough? Take me for instance, instead of taking pride in the collective knowledge I have, I create doubt in myself and my abilities because I compare myself to others that I, quite frankly, shouldn’t be comparing myself too. I look at others with envy as they embark on their journeys with their careers, family, self development and etc. I focus so much of my attention on what I don’t have because I am comparing myself to others, that I forget what I do have.
So what do I have and what do I know? I have a lot of skills and I know a lot about a lot of different things. So how do I use that to my advantage? Simple, I keep collecting data that interests me. I continue to research topics that excite me and fuel my passion. By allowing myself to be me and doing what I know, which is constantly trying new things, gathering new information and exploring alternative solutions, I can turn myself from being a Jill of all trades to a master of ONE thing – which is being the master of constant improvement. I know how to constantly improve and that is what I will keep doing. Eventually, I hope to use this master skill to help me financially and succeed in achieving my dream.
Time to reflect:
Take some personal time and look inward. Turn whatever you think you know into a powerful tool. Use what you know to guide you and do you. Don’t allow yourself to get mad at what you know. Don’t allow yourself to feel inferior because of what you know or think you don’t know. Don’t compare yourself to others who may be experts in certain topics. By focusing on what others have and what you don’t have, you may miss something valuable. Because at the end of the day, what you already know can end up being the most important thing you need to achieve your goals or success.
“Work for a cause not for applause. Live life to express not to impress. Don’t strive to make your presence noticed, just make your absence felt.” ~ anonymous