Sometimes the hardest thing in life is letting go. We often go through situations in life that test us and our will power. Particularly, when we are tested in a relationship, the idea of letting go can become quite complicated. I firmly believe the reason we complicate these situations is because our EGO gets the better of us.
Why is it so hard to let go sometimes? Is it because you are too comfortable, unwilling to change, can’t handle change, you’re in love, or etc.? Well, it may be a combination of many things. However, the most important thing to note is that our ego becomes very powerful when the time comes for us to learn to let go. Our mind and ego will conjure up every reason, excuse and idea possible to keep us holding on. There comes great strength in letting go, but, if your mind is convincing you that you are weak for letting go, you may teeter-totter with those ideas for a looong time. Your ego may convince you that letting go constitutes failure. But, that is so wrong.
I went through a situation personally where I was severly tested. I got involved in a relationship that I knew, right off the bat, wasn’t healthy for me and my personal development. I settled. Becasue I settled, my ego was having a hard time letting go of this relationship. It kept whispering things like, “how could you give up on something that was so easy in the first place”. My partner was not interested in developing a bright future with me. He insisted he cared for me, but his actions, or lack thereof, proved time and time again that we didn’t have a future. Yet, I kept holding on to the comfort I felt while being with him. I got into a routine, where I had an escape from my normal life. I mean don’t get me wrong, we had great times, that’s the reason why I tried holding on so hard, because of those few great times. What I failed to see were all the other 322 times that weren’t so great. My ego was hiding the negatives and embellishing the positives, but, not to serve the right purpose. My ego was slowly killing every bit of progress I had made within my body, mind and soul.
So, finally, I decided after trying very hard to hold on, to just trust in the universe and let go. A situation occured where I felt very humilated and insulted by my partner. I had reached a point where I decided this was just not worth it anymore. It came out of the blue and this time, no amount of convincing, done by my ego, was allowing me to go back to this unhealthy situation/relationship. It’s as if something more powerful than my ego finally woke up and said, “enough is enough.” I finally learned to let go, and trust me when I say this, it SUCKED. It hurt so much and still hurts to this day. I doubted everything about myself because I felt I lost my identity. But, when I looked deeper I realized, that was never my identity to begin with. My ego had somehow convinced me of what I was feeling. The day I realized I deserved more and better I became more clear and I felt like my old self again. The anxiety I felt for years just lifted and I felt free.
Time to reflect:
Do you have a hard time letting go? Ask yourself why? Sometimes the greatest strength is in our ability to trust in faith and the universe and let go of what we are used to and comfortable with. When we let go, we are allowing room for far greater things to enter our lives. So, learn to let go and live free!
“Maybe it’s not always about trying to fix something broken. Maybe it’s about starting over and creating something better.” ~ anonymous