Perscription Painkiller Addiction

We are living in an age where percription medicine rules the world of health. We often become so dependent on the use of perscription medicine we find little relief in natural or alternative remedies to help cure our ailments. We live in an age where we require quick fixes rather than getting to the root of the problem even if it takes a little longer. We would rather temporarily fix a problem than to find out the real reason behind our recurring problems. It seems we don’t have the time in our current “now” to deal with sickness. We can’t afford to take time off to research, travel and find the necessary alternative solutions. We need immediate relief to get back into our fast paced lives of working, paying bills, and spending our free time doing other things of priority.
I wanted to write about why I believe we become addicted and dependent on these unhealthy solutions. In fact, I am going to primarily focus on prescription painkillers as I know this is one of the fastest growing addictions in our modern day.  Many of the reasons I am going to mention are very common and occur a lot more frequently than we think.
  • Deceptive Euphoria – The dependence of this drug ties hand in hand with dealing with emotional and physical pain. Opiods have extreme side effects of euphoria. Many people will feel extreme pleasure which may seem quite surprising. The repeated chase of feeling that same pleasurable experience is craved by the intaker. The need to feel the initial pleasurable experience requires more painkillers/medication to achieve the same result as the first “high”. The high creates a sense of relaxation that one often enjoys because he/she has been dealing with extreme pain for so long. This provides relief to many who suffer from chronic pain.
  • Masking emotional pain – This doesn’t occur immediately, rather, once the intaker takes their first couple of pills they realize this medication creates distance from their pains, both physical and emotional. Usually people suffering from physical pain also deal with extreme emotional pain and soon grow dependent on relieving all the pains in their lives through the use of one little pill. Overtime a “chase” occurs, whereby, physical pain is relieved through drug use, then emotional pain is also relieved, followed by withdrawals, which creates negative feels, therefore more drugs are used to mask or relieve the negative feelings that occur because of the withdrawals.
  • Tolerance – Just with anything in life, too much of anything is not good. Particularly with painkillers/medication, the human body develops a tolerance to the drug. With time larger and stronger doses are required in order to achieve the initial “high”. Tolerance to any drug/substance is the first sign toward addiction.
  • Withdrawals – Often, people addicted to prescription painkillers/medication believe that they need more of the drug because their pain remains or gets worse. This occurs because of the mixed chemical messages being sent throughout the body. We go through ups and downs and cannot handle the chemical withdrawals that occur through the body. This creates a sense of imbalance and we physically feel the withdrawal effects on the body. The pain is intensified and the chemicals in our brain are amplifying the negative effects as we come down, off the high.
  • Painkillers are Legal – The world we live in offer painkillers (which are drugs) to every person who has access to it, legally.  These drugs are funded and supplied by companies.  They are meant to be taken in small doses to help those in need but many abuse this system because of the legal benefits/advantage pharmaceutical companies have.  These drugs are not only provided but their use is encouraged by medical professionals.  Police do not knock down the doors of pharmaceutical companies.  Which is pretty ironic if you ask me.
  • Inaccessible Alternative medication – There are many effective forms of alternative medication that the general public is oblivious too. Even physicians here in the Western world avoid providing information because they lack knowledge or simply because they would rather profit from prescribing medication and coating symptoms rather than curing ailments. Having access to non-drug pain relief medication is very difficult to find in the Western world. This is one of the main reasons why people become dependent on prescription medication.


“An over-indulgence of anything, even something as pure as water, can intoxicate.” ~ Criss Jami

Western medicine

I am blessed to live in a country that offers free health care.  The relief I have of not worrying about getting sick because I can’t afford it, is such a wonder.  It’s a luxury compared to what our American neighbours deal with, where they have to pay for health care.  In America people can’t afford to get sick because if they do, it will cost them an arm and a leg.  In fact, Western medicine isn’t all that it’s cut out to be.  Don’t get me wrong, we are very lucky and blessed with the skill sets and talent of some of the worlds greatest minds and professionals.  However, at the same time, the principles of Western medicine is what doesn’t resonate well with me.

Western medicine will invest more effort, time and money in researching and “legally” producing pharmaceutical drugs and medicine than educating patients on alternative and natural remedies that heal and eventually prolong life.  Western medicine does not provide any outlet or avenue for a person to even look into those options when dealing with terminal illness or diseases.  Instead, Western medicine would rather drug you up and keep you spending your hard earned money purchasing these drugs that have severe short and long term effects.  It’s sad that we live in a part of the world where almost 90% of us are educated, yet we are so misinformed about the realities of corporate choke holds and profiteering, especially at the cost of our very well being and health.

I share my opinion with you all because I believe we need to make a change in the way we deal with illness and health issues.  There are many alternative remedies that are overlooked because a drug company would rather make a profit off the suffering of a persons health issues.  It’s despicable and downright unethical to live amongst people who care so little about human life.  I mean it’s crazy because the tools and the innovation that Western medicine currently possess is undeniably amazing.  We have the means and facilities to cure almost anything yet we have one of the highest rates of illness around the world.  Why is that?  Because our concentration is on the wrong thing, making money instead of educating and curing ailments.

If Western medicine combined its raw talent, amazing intellect and innovative capabilities with alternative and holistic medicine the way Eastern medicine has done it, we all would live much healthier, cleaner and longer lives.  Scientific research has proven time again that Eastern medicine is in fact way more reliable, less evasive and harmful than Western medicine.  Eastern medicine combines scientific innovative tools with ancient holistic and natural remedies to produce the best results.  That is why most people who are diagnosed with terminal illnesses or diseases in the West end up travelling to the East to get second, third and fourth opinions.

In conclusion, I believe it is time for all of us to rise up and take a stand against these pharmaceutical corporate hyenas and push for a more holistic and natural avenue to help deal with illness and health issues.  Instead of living in a “legally” drug induced state all of our lives we should take active steps to finding natural and alternative cures.  We should invest more effort, time and money into researching how to combine holistic medicine with the current innovations and tools we are used too to eventually produce the best results.


“The greatest medicine of all is to teach people how not to need it.” ~ anonymous


What is the meaning of detoxification?  Well, it’s sort of like a cleansing of the body from inside out.  The scientific explanation is the removal of toxic substances from a living organism.  Detox occurs when the body tries to eliminate and remove toxins produced in the body from foods, the environment and our genetics.  We are all relatively clean people whereby, we shower, keep our bodies and hygiene clean, brush our teeth, and etc..  However, rarely do we clean ourselves from the inside.  The reason being is we are not educated on the proper methods for detoxification.  Most of the time we aren’t even aware when our bodies require a detox.  So, I want to share with you all some symptoms that you should be aware of to determine whether or not you may benefit from a detox.

If you experience any one or more of the following symptoms, you may want to consider researching detoxes particular to your health needs.

  • Allergies
  • Bad breath
  • Bloating
  • Dark under-eye circles
  • Fatigue
  • Headaches
  • Indigestion
  • Poor concentration
  • Skin issues
  • Sluggish digestion

Here are some tips on how to minimize your toxic load and help keep your liver (your detox organ) clean.

  • Drink lots of WATER!  Stay hydrated.  Drinking good quality water daily helps flush out toxins.
  • Eat foods that contain high fibre such as fruits, veggies, whole grains and nuts and seeds.  Fibre helps to eliminate toxins by stimulating bile flow.  Also, the more regular and better your bowel movements are the more toxins you release.
  • Eat organic and avoid foods that use artificial ingredients, chemicals, pesticides, additives, and preservatives.
  • Eliminate anything that hinders your detoxification such as caffeine, alcohol, white sugar and bad fats.  Chemicals are also absorbed through the body and this means you should avoid certain beauty care products that contain harmful chemicals such as perfume, antiperspirant, makeup, soap, cream and etc.
  • Exercise!  Try to move your body everyday!  Incorporate effective breathing as well to help reduce stress and help blood flow to all the areas of your body to keep it limber and flexible.
  • Eat more detoxifying foods.  These foods can stimulate the liver to detox, purify the blood and promote bile flow and regular bowel movements.





So there is a trend going on with the youth these days.  Actually, it’s not just the youth, it’s pretty much anyone who owns a phone with a camera on it.  This trend started once camera phones came into existence.  The infamous selfie!  What is a “selfie” you ask?  Well, it’s a picture that a person takes of him/herself, particularly focusing on a close up of the face.

The reason why I am writing about this trend is because I was driving down my driveway about a week ago and noticed a young girl (probably about 14-16) stop right in the middle of the driveway to take a “selfie”.  This didn’t bother me in the least, it was just something that I noticed and was aware of.  The following day, I was again driving back home and noticed the very same girl stop in the exact same position as the day before, to take another “selfie”.  This time, however, it did bother me.  It made me wonder, what is the need for this young girl to take the exact same picture of herself, in the exact same pose, with the same background, just with a slight different look (as in different clothes), again.  It then made me think how many other pictures of herself did she take in the exact same position.  What is this obsessive need that people have these days of wanting to look at themselves over and over again? I mean carry a damn mirror if that’s the case!

I then started thinking about this trend that everyone is following.  Taking pictures of themselves looking exactly the same way they did in every picture they took.  This trend promotes low self-esteem and a heap of other negative things.  I am all for taking nice pictures and wanting to feel and look good.  I myself am a “selfie” taker when I feel I look extremely attractive or I want to show off.  But, what bothers me is that this trend is creating obsessive characteristics in people.  People are becoming vain, obsessive and needy for attention.

A picture is supposed to capture a moment in time that you want to remember.  How many times can a person look at themselves being captured in the same moment every moment?  It just doesn’t make any sense.  Once in a while, I understand.  Even every week I understand.  But taking a “selfie” every day, multiple times a day?  Is that even healthy?  If you are a notorious “selfie” taker, I suggest you get some help.

I think you may need to look into your soul and ask yourself a series of deep meaningful questions that require honesty about why you have such a need to take selfies.  This is not to insult you or make you feel like I’m judging you, it’s simply to bring awareness to a deep seated issue that maybe you’re not seeing at the moment.  I find people who are constantly taking selfies are trying to fulfill something that they are unaware of.  That is why I suggest, you ask yourself what it is you really need and want out of your life.  So, I end by saying, I cannot wait for this trend to be over, because I think many of us can be using our minds and talent for much greater things than taking “selfies”.


“Vanity and pride are different things, though the words are often used synonymously.  A person may be proud without being vain.  Pride relates more to our opinion of ourselves; vanity, to what we would have others think of us”. ~ Jane Austen



I have come to realize that in order to live a magnificent life, one needs to be outstanding at all times.  You can’t pick and choose which day you want to be outstanding, you have to be that way consistently.  Well, you can live a life of inconsistency but where will that lead you?  It may lead you to a mediocre life that meets the basic standards of this society.  You may live a comfortable life based on what others believe your comfort should be.  Or you may live a very unfulfilled life, always wishing you had done more, knowing you had the potential.  Whatever the case, if you are inconsistent, then expect to live a basic to comfortable life.

Consistency is one of those things that you have to develop.  It isn’t something that just happens, you have to work at being consistent.  Developing this “good” habit of being consistent leads to “excellent” habits which in turn leads to excellent outcomes.  Consistency occurs when you are able to perform your A game every day and with everything you do.  Consistency in your work, your exercise or diet, your relationships, your personal development and etc. all lead to living a very magnificent life.  By being consistent you are helping yourself achieve greater results.

Human nature is to cut ourselves slack when we realize we are burning out.  I can’t tell you how many times I gave up on an exercise routine or diet because I thought I achieved enough results to satisfy me momentarily.  I would reason with myself and say that, “oh I’ve been doing so great for the past 2 weeks so I can cut some slack now and relax for a week”.  These little inconsistent patterns led to so many, “I wish I had started earlier” or “I wish I didn’t cut myself slack” moments.  By picking and choosing which days I wanted to be on my A game, I set myself up for failure.  Instead of being on my A game all the time and every day, the progress I would make in 2 weeks would mean nothing when I would relax for 1 week.  By taking the unnecessary time off I would negate all the growth that occurred in the prior 2 weeks.

Being consistent not only leads to outstanding results but it is a way of life.  I have made a conscious decision that I want to be consistent in everything I do going forward.  I will make conscious choices to be consistent at everything I do.  Even if it’s something really small like consistently making my bed every morning.  Or consistently going to yoga 3 times a week, every week.  By starting small and consistently doing the small things while on my A game, I can then tackle the larger habits of inconsistency I have.  Eventually, this will lead to me to living a consistent life which will hopefully lead to many magnificent outcomes.

Time to reflect:

Are you inconsistent?  Do you cut yourself slack unnecessarily when you know you should continue giving your A game?  Well, stop!  Make the effort to be more consistent.  Start off by doing the small things that you know you put off or cut slack on, like cleaning your room or eating right every day.  By performing the little things as if you’re on your A game, you will start developing standards of expectations for yourself.  You will see outstanding results where you once saw ok results.  This standard will force you to grow and develop consistency in all of your actions.  So go ahead, start being consistent and start with the small things.  Soon you will see how magnificent your life will be, all because you chose to be consistent.  


“I’ve learned from experience that if you work harder at it, and apply more energy and time to it, and more consistency, you get a better result. It comes from the work”. ~ Louis C. K.


Here is the truth about me…I have big dreams…but I am not motivated.  There is some sort of disconnect with my dreams and my actions.  I am lacking congruency.  Until I am able to become congruent with my vision and my actions I will remain demotivated.

Have you been on a quest to accomplish a task or goal?  If so, have you completed your task/goal?  If you haven’t, can you tell me why?  No?  Well, I can.  It’s because you are not congruent.  Now, I know what you’re thinking…“what the hell do you know about me to accuse me of not being congruent”.  And yes, you are right, I don’t know you, but if you haven’t accomplished your task or said goal, I don’t have to know you personally to know that you’re just not congruent.  It’s that simple.

I know this because I know what it’s like not to be congruent.  I am living proof of in-congruency.  I am one of those people that want, believe, dream and desire change and growth but I lack the actions to substantiate or validate those dreams and beliefs.  I lack action.  Because I lack action, no matter how much I dream or wish or want, it will NEVER happen, because I am not congruent.  My dreams don’t match my actions.  My dreams are bigger than my actions.  This is what causes in-congruency, when what you say, believe, and do, don’t match.

So how do we fix this?  Well, first off, we need to consciously admit our faults.  Yes, I admit, I lack action and therefore, I lack the motivation to follow through with appropriate actions that coincide with my dreams.  Next, I need to make a conscious effort to catch myself being incongruent.  Each time I have a wish, desire or want, I write it down.  This forces me to become obligated to this “list of things I want” and it reinforces my thoughts.  After I’ve written out my dreams and wants, I ask myself what actions could I take to help me eventually achieve what I want.  After going through the list of immediate and long term actions, I can clearly see how much more or little I need to do in order to accomplish my goal.  By doing this, I am able to gauge my current situation and progress and see if I am being congruent or not.  I can officially determine if I am on the right path, if I am making any progress even, or if there are more things within my capability that I should be doing.

By becoming congruent, you take control of your words which then become your actions.  I always wanted to be a woman that could confidently say, “you can take my word for it”.  Until now, I have not been able to be that type of woman, because I’ll admit, my words had very little meaning and value.  I said a lot and did very little.  But, now, after teaching myself to become congruent with my thoughts, words and actions, I can confidently tell others, “trust me”.

Time to reflect:

Are you incongruent?  Are you noticing a lack of motivation in your actions?  Are you the type of person who wants to do amazing things, but, your actions aren’t meeting up to the standards of your dreams?  Well, that’s because you need to become more congruent.  Congruency occurs when what you say and do match one another.  If you claim you’re on a diet, yet, you go to McDonald’s every day, you wishing and wanting to be healthy will NEVER happen.  Developing congruency is the key to succeeding in any goals.  So, teach yourself to become congruent and you will see how motivated you become and how quickly your words become your actions.  


“I believe the ultimate goal of living and refining your values is to identify and achieve congruence with universal principles”. ~ anonymous 

Humiliation leads to excellence

I have made many mistakes in my life and I am aware that I am not perfect by any means.  I have made choices in the past that some may construe as stupid, selfish, wrong and etc..  I have been humiliated by my mistakes and by people that judged me based on certain perceptions they had of me.  At the time of the events, where I was being humiliated, it obviously hurt like hell.  It wasn’t a good feeling at all.  I felt like saying, “how dare you say such things to me”, “who do you think you are to judge me”, “I don’t deserve to be treated this way”, and etc..  I felt horrible as a human being afterward, thinking to myself, “maybe this person is right about me”, and “Yes, I am a failure”.

There was one particular instance that not too long ago occurred, where I felt severely humiliated.  My boyfriend at the time had said some very mean and hurtful things to me after an argument.  Things spiralled out of control, on his end, and he completely flew off the handles and started insulting me.  He told me that I make excuses for everything, and I throw pity parties, I talk a whole lot and do very little, I am not getting any younger, I am not financially stable so I don’t know what I’m talking about and a whole heap of insults.  I was so hurt and felt so dejected as a person.  Usually after being hurt or humiliated like that, I would cry and retreat and actually throw a pity party.  But instead, that day, what I felt inside was different.  That day, my perception on humiliation changed.

That very same day at 1:15pm I went home and looked at myself in the mirror.  I felt a calm and very confident energy emanating from inside of me.  I looked at myself for the first time with eyes of a woman who knew exactly what needed to happen.  I told myself that I would NEVER allow anyone to speak that way to me again.  I told myself that I would NEVER give anyone a chance to even think those thoughts about me again.  I told myself that I would NEVER allow anyone to believe, with such conviction, their judgements about me.  It was because of how he humiliated me that day, that I became the woman I always wanted to be.

I know it might sound strange, but, humiliation leads to excellence.  How many times have we witnessed on Reality TV a person being berated by an authority figure or someone who is a Judge or critic?  Sometimes the recipient deserves the constructive and harsh critiscim to help develop the individual while on other occasions they may be uncalled for.  Either way, you see a drastic change in the person after the humiliation occurs and the person becomes more receptive to guidance and takes more decisive action.  For example, on those business salvaging shows, a business Guru might come in and rip the owner a new a**hole for being an inefficient leader and owner.  The humiliation the person experiences in front of his/her staff, colleagues, on camera and in front of strangers forces the person to change, often in a great way.

Now, this is not the best way to change, obviously.  But, regardless, it is a way to change and if you are going to change, it might as well lead to excellence.  With my personal example, the very same day, I went out and purchased my second car after paying off my first car in full!  I went out and got a $70 hair cut and got pampered with a mani-pedi.  I signed a contract with the engineers, for renovation designs on my restaurant business, that I was putting off for months.  I also went to hot yoga for 1 hour and 30mins and finally came home to cook and then clean the entire house all by 10:30pm.  In that one day, I completed what I normally would’ve taken 2 weeks to do, all because I was driven by the humiliation I felt earlier.  I did all of those things for myself because the real woman in me would behave that way under all circumstances.  Through my experience of humiliation I know for sure that it can lead to excellence if you use the power of how you felt, differently and wisely!

Time to reflect:

Have you ever felt humiliated?  Was it because you were called out on something you knew you were doing wrong?  Or were you being judged unnecessarily?  Either way, the feeling isn’t good.  However, how can you consciously take that bad feeling and make it good?  Try using your hurt feelings from the humiliation to drive you.  Tell yourself, that you will NEVER allow yourself to feel that way again and be accepting and thankful for the humiliation you felt.  By using the power to drive you to be better and be excellent, you can use that feeling to your advantage instead of allowing it to cripple you.  


“Humiliation is the beginning of sanctification.” ~ John Donne


Addiction is a dangerous thing.  We are surrounded by addiction.  People are addicted to work, money, lifestyle, drugs, sex, social media, and etc..  How does one figure out when addiction takes over?  Well, I’m not a scientist and I am not a psychologist, but I do know from personal experience that I was born with an addictive personality.  I have always known, from the moment I was aware of the idea of addiction, that I was susceptible to addiction.  Knowing this about myself has helped me make some critical decisions in my life that helped me avoid addiction.

Having an addictive personality led me to act out certain behavioural patterns.  I would repeat the same song that I loved over and over again till the cassette tape ripped.  Or once CD’s came out, the songs that I loved would be scratched so badly because it would be on repeat all the time.  Or if I liked a particular food, I would eat it always until I got sick of it.  These behavioural patterns made me very conscious of the fact that I was very susceptible to addiction if I got involved in the wrong type of activities.

For majority of my life, from childhood to my young adult years, I avoided drinking alcohol, smoking cigarettes and doing drugs.  I grew up believing that if I did any of those things, I would become addicted and I would throw my life away.  I was strong willed then because I understood my weakness, my addictive personality.  If I loved something, I knew I would do it over and over again until I was forced to stop.  But, once I met my ex- husband, I felt like I was in control of my life and my choices.  I knew I could separate myself from my actions and that my actions didn’t define me.  So, we both started dabbling in the party life.  I experimented with him in my university days and learned a ton about myself and my threshold.

One day I was completely in control and having recreational fun, to all of the sudden, finding myself suffering from withdrawals because of a prescription pill addiction.  That was the day I realized I had hit rock bottom.  The one thing that I was always so conscious about, was my addictive personality, and that is the one thing that completely crept up on me without me even realizing.  That was the most disappointing thing about it all, that I didn’t even see it coming all the while knowing it was possible.

When fun turns into addiction, no one can pin point the exact moment.  But, there are many triggers along the way.  It’s hard to be aware of those triggers while on binges or while dealing with addiction.  But, the signs are there.  Try to notice how your friends and family react.  Are they noticing things about you, or are they even blatantly telling you to stop certain things that are unhealthy?  Those are all signs that you’ve changed and that maybe addiction has taken over.  How you cope with it is very personal and everyone deals with it differently.  We can sit and discuss endlessly on how to cope with addiction, but acknowledging that you have a problem will be the first step toward fixing it.  One thing is for sure though, once addiction hits, it’s a disease that affects even the strongest individuals and I wish it on no one.

Time to reflect:

Do you have an addictive personality?  If you do, do you consciously avoid certain things?  If you do that’s great.  It can be hard to stay away from certain things especially when you have a personality type that gravitates toward those unhealthy things.  Addiction is not to be taken lightly and everyone suffering from it needs to address it as soon as possible.  Don’t be ashamed of admitting when you need help.  If you have hit rock bottom, that is where God put you to help save you.  


“Every form of addiction is bad, no matter whether the narcotic be alcohol, morphine or idealism.” ~ C.G. Jung